National Assoc. for Christian Recovery

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NACR Daily Meditation for Monday, Aug 18, 2008

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"So then, let us not be like others, who are asleep, but let us be alert and self-controlled"

1Thessalonians 5:6

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The first step toward honesty is to pay attention.

In the words of this text, the choices we face are either to sleep or to be alert and self-controlled. There are days when we would rather 'sleep'. There are days when the emotional numbness of denial seems less painful then the alertness required by recovery.Couldn't we just 'let it ride' for a day? Couldn't we just 'sleep' for awhile? Sometimes people encourage us to 'sleep'. "Why are you still paying attention to that? It was a long time ago!" Or "Why are you still 'holding on' to that? Just forgive and get it behind you."

Wouldn't it be great to get this over with quickly and not have to pay attention to it anymore?

There is a rest, a serenity, that comes from God. But it comes from 'alertness', not from 'sleep'. God's peace is not like the 'sleep' in this text. This sleep is denial, it is avoidance, it is distraction, it is pretending, it is death. Being alert means that we allow ourselves to see and hear, to use our senses and mind and heart. It means that we pay attention to what is happening inside of us and around us. The text urges us to be alert, to pay attention. Pay attention, it urges, even if life is painful, even if it is not what we want it to be.

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Lord, help me to pay attention today!

Help me not to put my feelings to sleep.

I want to be aware of my thoughts and feelings, Lord.

I want to be able to experience both the pain and joy of life today.

Help me to pay attention.

Amen.

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Copyright 1991 Dale and Juanita Ryan

Purpose Driven Life

Authentic Friendships

by Rick Warren

But if we live in the light, as God is in the light, we can share fellowship with each other. Then the blood of Jesus, God’s Son, cleanses us from every sin. If we say we have no sin, we are fooling ourselves, and the truth is not in us.

1 John 1:7–8 (NCV)
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In Christian fellowship people should experience authenticity. Authentic fellowship is not superficial, surface-level chit-chat. It’s genuine, heart-to-heart, sometimes gut-level, sharing.
It happens when people get honest about who they are and what is happening in their lives. They share their hurts, reveal their feelings, confess their failures, disclose their doubts, admit their fears, acknowledge their weaknesses, and ask for help and prayer. Authenticity is the exact opposite of what you find in many churches. Instead of an atmosphere of honesty and humility, there is pretending, role-playing, politicking, superficial politeness, and shallow conversation. People wear masks, keep their guard up, and act as if everything is rosy in their lives. These attitudes are the death of real friendship.

It’s only as we become open about our lives that we experience authentic fellowship.

The Bible says;

“If we live in the light, as God is in the light, we can share fellowship with each other. . . . If we say we have no sin, we are fooling ourselves” (1 John 1:7–8 NCV).

The world thinks intimacy occurs in the dark, but God says it happens in the light. We tend to use darkness to hide our hurts, faults, fears, failures, and flaws. But in the light, we bring them all out into the open and admit who we really are.

Of course, being authentic requires both courage and humility. It means facing our fear of exposure, rejection, and being hurt again.

Why would anyone take such a risk?

Because it’s the only way to grow spiritually and be emotionally healthy!

The Bible says;

“Make this your common practice: Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you can live together whole and healed” (James 5:16 MSG).

© 2008 Purpose Driven Life. All rights reserved.

National Assn. for Christian Recovery

NACR Daily Meditation for Saturday, Jun 14, 2008

I will heal their waywordness and love them freely. Hosea 14:4

Waywordness is a turning away from what is in our best interest and following depraved, capricious inclinations. There are many ways in which waywardness can be expressed. Some of us are openly rebellious. We flaunt our wild behavior and laugh at God. Others of us are quietly wayward. We try to appear compliant and good but we are self-reliant and defiantly independent.

No matter how we express our waywardness it is a destructive force in our lives. In our attempts to protect ourselves from any further pain we turn away from God and from others who love us. We shut them out. And we shut out their love. As a result, we close ourselves off from what we want and need most desperately in life - to be known and loved.

God promises to heal our waywardness. God understands that our turning away is the result of some deep wound in us. God sees this. God knows. God promises to heal us by loving us freely. When we close the doors of our heart, God does not stop loving us. Instead God continues to love us generously and completely. God will love us freely until our fears are gone and our defenses can come down. God will love us freely so that one day we will be able to give up our waywordness and allow ourselves the joy of being loved.

Heal my waywardness, Lord.
When I turn away from you,
love me so that
I will return to you again.

Amen.

Copyright 1991 Dale and Juanita Ryan

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The Jellinek Curve

(click on chart for larger image)

The Jellinek curve was developed by E. Morton Jellinek as a result of extensive research on the phenomenon of alcoholism. Jellinek is credited with many advancements in the field as well as this chart of the progression of the disease and recovery. Click on the chart for a larger image which you can then use as a tool for your own self examination, particularly with regard to Step 1 of AA's 12 steps. Starting on the left and going down, reflect on how many of these symptoms you have experienced.